Perhaps This Sounds Familiar?
My husband and I met at BYU, married in the temple, started a family and moved to Washington State to raise our children.
We had family home evening, prayer and scripture study, went to church, honored the Sabbath, attended the temple, held callings, drove to seminary, sent our children to all the BYU’s, sent out a missionary and saw our daughters married in the temple.
I think we might have been called the typical Latter-day Saint Family.
One of our daughters stopped attending church shortly after high school. Later, two more daughters and my husband made the very difficult decision to step away from the church also.
Suddenly and almost without warning, I was no longer part of a typical Latter-day Saint family. I had recently been called as Relief Society President and felt very exposed at church. I was learning to navigate my new mixed-faith family status.
I didn’t know exactly how I was supposed to relate to my husband and children without the structure of celebrations – blessings, baptisms and ordinations that are built into Mormon life.
We were eventually able to figure out milestones without the church to guide us. It is interesting, everyone else in the whole world has been doing it forever, but it sure takes a lot of communication and effort.
This new life was not an effortless pattern that had been set up for many generations.
I had to figure it out on my own.